This can be very difficult… We are so ‘programmed’ by our upbringing, schools, colleagues, even friends to do what is considered ‘right’ that sometimes it becomes very difficult to really know who we are and what we stand for.
What are your truths? Do you know?
I know some of mine but they have definitely changed over the decades and I still have a way to go before I am totally sure of them. I think we need to be flexible and adapt as time goes by as things change and as we become more self-confident, self-honest and self-aware it becomes easier to define what we really mean by our own truths.
I was helped by having an earthquake in my life (not literal) which stripped off all veneers, falsities and unrealistic ideas. It got me right down to the core of who I was and was big enough of an earthquake for me to understand clearly what really was important in life and what was just glitter, gloss, shallow and superficial claptrap.
Some of mine?
I really don’t care what other people think. If I think it is right that will do for me.
How can you find your own truths? Keep asking questions, keep asking why? Why do you want this? How does it make you feel? Why do you want to feel that way? What does it link back to? Who around you values you the same? Does that make you value it too or do you value it yourself without the influence of others?
Keep with the why, why, why to everything and find the emotion, the feeling in each ‘truth’, go back and back and then back some more. When you can’t go back any further and no one has influenced your feeling, that might be one of your truths…
I’ll give you a hint, if ‘pride’ or ‘success’ feature in your truths then they are quite likely not your own truths but someone else’s…