This can be very difficult…  We are so ‘programmed’ by our upbringing, schools, colleagues, even friends to do what is considered ‘right’ that sometimes it becomes very difficult to really know who we are and what we stand for.

What are your truths? Do you know?

I know some of mine but they have definitely changed over the decades and I still have a way to go before I am totally sure of them. I think we need to be flexible and adapt as time goes by as things change and as we become more self-confident, self-honest and self-aware it becomes easier to define what we really mean by our own truths.

I was helped by having an earthquake in my life (not literal) which stripped off all veneers, falsities and unrealistic ideas. It got me right down to the core of who I was and was big enough of an earthquake for me to understand clearly what really was important in life and what was just glitter, gloss, shallow and superficial claptrap.

Some of mine?

I really don’t care what other people think. If I think it is right that will do for me.


How can you find your own truths? Keep asking questions, keep asking why? Why do you want this? How does it make you feel? Why do you want to feel that way? What does it link back to? Who around you values you the same? Does that make you value it too or do you value it yourself without the influence of others?

Keep with the why, why, why to everything and find the emotion, the feeling in each ‘truth’, go back and back and then back some more. When you can’t go back any further and no one has influenced your feeling, that might be one of your truths…

I’ll give you a hint, if ‘pride’ or ‘success’ feature in your truths then they are quite likely not your own truths but someone else’s…


Anna Letitia Cook
Anna Letitia Cook

Anna Letitia Cook - author, speaker, radio presenter - is passionate about mentoring women in finding clarity and fulfilment in their life choices. She created and became CEO of her first company in the entertainment industry at age 32. Midlife approaching, hungry for a dynamic change, she refocused her experience, founding WomenUP Ltd to help women shape their own future. Creator of the 'SCOPE' and '4Fs' processes for career, fulfilment and holistic success. Author of ‘Unstoppable Goddess: Every Women’s Guide to Freedom, Fulfilment and Success’. UN Women's 2016-2017 Global Champion for Change @ Empower Women. ...On the personal front: Mum, Granny, ‘flattie’ owner, horse lover, ballet fanatic, hiker! Into castle renovations, sculpture, farming, yoga. Drinks tea...