Priorities – What choices would you make?
I had to make a choice last night and it got me thinking about priorities… One of my dogs started running in circles shaking her head and whining. Me, instant call to vet, straight in and sadly had to leave her in overnight as they had to operate to remove the grass seed that had suddenly lodged in her eardrum – poor little furbaby!
Picking her up from the vet at 8.00am this morning meant I had to cancel 3 client appointments which I did without hesitation as my priorities are clear on that score… My clients are lovely people but my animals are part of the family!
This morning I was thinking how do we prioritise in our life? What would we do or change in a series of situations? I am frequently surprised (shocked even) by some of the stories I hear from clients about how they ‘had to’ stay at work and missed x, y or z (including family birthdays, children’s school plays, visiting friends in hospital, going away on holidays) …
Also, I had the great pleasure of interviewing Zerbanoo Gifford yesterday, a truly amazing woman. We were talking about people’s priorities in general and how the whole world seems to be far too fixated on material things and what we ‘have to’ do, usually related to a career, power or prestige and not nearly enough on the people around us, nor by looking inwards on how we personally can be a better person, so change ourselves first, as well as outwards at what we can do for others to help them be happier and have a better holistic life and environment… I whole-heartedly agree!
Sorry that was a bit of a diversion, but Zerbanoo is so great – don’t miss the interview (link here) …
Back to our own priorities… Do you know yours? Have you ever actually thought about what they really are? So for example if you were in specific situations what would your response be? I’ll give you a tip, you don’t need to tell anyone else, but do please be brutally honest with yourself – it makes your life so much easier when you know who you are…
Here are some of the questions I asked myself:
Q. If a client asked me to cancel my current meetings because he/she had a problem and needed to work with me NOW…
A. Unlikely because I think it is disrespectful to my other clients
Q. If a client asked me to change my workshop from 5 days to 4 because they were too busy…
A. I probably would as they should know their employees’ needs better than me (in theory anyway)
Q. If a client asked me to work on a Saturday…
A. They have to be on totally another planet or else have extremely, incredibly deep pockets and a positively golden tongue to even get me to think about it
Q. If a client asked me to change the venue of where I am doing the workshop.
A. Sure no problem.
Q. If an acquaintance asked to borrow my car
Q. If a distant school friend who I haven’t seen for over 40 years suddenly asked to come and stay for a long weekend (possibly because where I live could be considered a good ‘holiday place’ – lol am I cynical?)
A. Sure, why not, nice to catch up and talk about old times
Q. Same question but for a week
A. Hmmmmmmm not sure
Q. If someone offers me a wonderful job which means moving to the city but getting excellent salary and all sorts of perks and benefits
A. No (unless they provide me with an amazing isolated country house in a superb area of natural beauty for long weekends and let me do 2 days per week from home)
Q. Same job offer but in outstanding area of natural beauty, Small cottage (or no cottage) supplied, good salary and medium perks.
A. Yes when do I start? Tomorrow?
Q. If one of my besties phoned and said “I need you, come now” with no explanation or reason (bearing in mind they all live in other countries, one on an island mid Atlantic-Caribbean, min 2 flights, 13 hours and 5.500 km)
A. Already booking the flights as we speak
Q. If same besties asked same question, still with no reason at a time when I had one of the biggest deals in all my career at stake
A. Yes! Soulmates are everything…
So now back to you. What situations do you find stressful? When do you have a problem saying no? How do you prioritise?
Think about it – life is so much sweeter when we know who we are!